Have You Ever...?
Avoided Conflict?
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Frozen up during conflict?
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Didn't want to rock the boat?
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Felt like a doormat?
Felt Invisible?
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Kept everyone else happy?
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Felt others are running your life?
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Didn't get credit for your ideas?
Wanted to Explode?
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Stuffed your feelings?
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Felt like a volcano?
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Felt crazy, from frozen to raging?
Imagine Instead...
Embracing Conflict
Having an honest and relaxed discussion about the family vacation plans, instead of caving to see your partner's mom -- again.
Finding Your Voice
At work, boldly sharing your ideas, and when Frank interrupts you for the 135th time, you calmly redirect him.
Having Skills
When the mechanic overcharges you $30, you use your new skills to smoothly resolve the problem with a smile.
Meet Tara
Hi, I'm Tara and I get it! I used to stuff my feelings down until I would explode, get embarrassed, then start over again. I struggled to find balance. Through my 30 years as a mental health counselor and learning the -- very -- hard way, I understood the connection between trauma and conflict resolution.
After working with thousands of clients in my mental health practice and doing deep work myself, I developed a step-by-step approach method of combining trauma-informed methods with conflict resolution. Now I help women with real tools for conflict, find their voice and feel powerful.
Do you wish you could stand up for yourself?
The Boundaries Bootcamp will give you the steps to draw clear boundaries -- for $97.
How it works:
1. Take a brief quiz, designed by me, before we chat.
2. Hop on the phone for a 45' call with me.
At the end you will know:
1. Your personalized assertiveness score.
2. The four steps to setting boundaries.
3. The three things to NEVER do in order to make your boundaries STICK.
I want to start standing up for myself!
Are You Ready to Conquer Conflict?
Get the tools for conflict and feel POWERFUL
Program: From Frozen to Free
1: Take Control of Your Emotions
We start here looking at how you respond to situations, including any trauma responses. We will develop a map for overwhelming situations and make a plan to feel in control of your emotions again.
2. Be Assertively You
Here we look at assertiveness training and how to use the 3R Scale to identify changes you want to make. We will also talk about handling "change back" reactions that might come up.
3. Plan To Conquer
Here we learn about healthy conflict resolution, your conflict style and creating win/win situations. We do role plays and plan small experiments to carry out in the next stage, which builds your confidence, applying what you learned.
4. Practice Makes Progress
It's showtime! In this phase, we pull it all together. You report on the small experiments you've been carrying out. We will discuss any overwhelming emotions, and review where you might be getting stuck. We celebrate your wins and plan for future success.
Let's Work Together
Are you ready to stop freezing and start finding your voice? Get 1:1 coaching that teaches the concepts and gives you tools over ten sessions. (click above)
Are you ready to knock this out, all at once? Come hang out with me at my beautiful office for five hours, (video also great) and we will focus on only YOU. You will have some prework and a 1/2 hour coaching session prior. During the VIP session, we will get busy with theories and skills, do role plays, problem solving, and of course, have an amazing lunch. You will leave focused, with some handouts, and ready to tackle the world. (click above)
Would you like to have several people trained, all at once? Contact me to work with your group in person or video. We can customize the training for the needs of your group. (click above)
Speaking and Training
Dr. Tara Alexander is an international speaker and trainer who uses her experience as a mental health therapist, college professor and coach to educate and inspire her audiences.
Tara offers practical solutions to tough situations. Her audiences enjoy her warm and down-to-earth approach. She is an experienced member of Toastmasters, an award-winning college professor, and was once pulled into the audience after speaking in India. Long story.
People Are Talking...
“A good coach comes from someone with extensive life experience and training. Dr. Tara is that kind of person. Her style is warm and down-to-earth while being non-judgmental. However, she is not afraid of asking the hard questions. If you want a coach that is going to stretch you in very positive ways to maximize your success, Dr. Tara is that coach.” -- Pat Y.
"I’m so lucky to have found Dr. Alexander and to have had the opportunity to be the recipient of her personal coaching! She was able to help me dig in and define what the heart of the bigger issue I came to her with was and in doing so made it possible for me to work through some possible solutions with her guidance. I will definitely be back and I would emphatically encourage anyone who is feeling like they may have misplaced their life roadmap to get in and spend some time working with Dr. Alexander!” -- Carmen W.
“When taking steps to evaluate your organization's current state and planning for the future, you need an experienced, skilled, and collaborative partner. Dr. Tara has proven to be that partner. She took the time to help us formulate goals and address our concerns. She developed a plan to assess our organizational and personal intercultural competence and used this baseline to recommend cross-cultural training. Under the guidance of Dr. Tara, we are building our capability to shift perspective and adjust behavior while fostering a more inclusive environment. I highly recommend Dr. Tara's coaching services.” -- Stephen R.